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I am 20 weeks pregnant with our first kid and we are very excited!

I have a job that pays some bills and gives me health insurance, but quite honestly if I wasn't pregnant, I would have quit at least two months ago. Basically, regardless of when I do end up leaving to have the baby I have no plans of returning. Maybe to a different department in the same company, but I'm not entirely sure about that.

I am a high risk mama and I literally have twice as many appointments (at least) as the average pregnant lady. I am overweight and have high blood pressure. I'm being monitored by two doctors and everything has been okay so far with the baby and his/her growth and my blood pressure has been well controlled by medication.

I have been having a rough time with morning sickness and getting knocked down by a stomach bug for a couple of weeks and have missed a fair amount of work. My bosses are not pleased with this and think I need to toughen up. That may be the case, and I may look back and think I was being a giant wuss, but right now in the moment I'm just doing the best that I can. I have not worked here long enough to qualify for FMLA but I can take a medical leave of absence or personal leave. With that, I would technically be an employee for up to 38 weeks and would have no changes to health insurance for the first 12 weeks. After that, the health insurance would go away unless I paid into COBRA.

If I'm counting right, I'm one missed day of work away from being fired. As far as I know, I would qualify for unemployment because I have a health condition that would have led me to being fired. We would definitely qualify for food stamps then and although I'm not sure about Medicaid, I would qualify for CHIPS insurance for the rest of my pregnancy so at least prenatal care and delivery would be covered and the baby would be after that.

My question is, do you think it would be better to get fired or to go on medical leave now? I'm due in March, so my insurance would not last until the birth of my baby, but it would get me through the next few months at least. Is having health insurance through my company more important than trying to collect unemployment?

Any thoughts are helpful! Thanks for your time, I totally love this community.
7th Nov 2009 08:47 pm - Frozen Perl Call for Speakers

The Frozen Perl 2010 workshop is scheduled for Saturday, February 6th at the University of Minnesota's McNamara Alumni Center in Minneapolis, MN. The organizers just put out their call for speakers a day or so ago.

If you have no fear of freezing temperatures[1] and want to attend or speak at a great Perl workshop, check it out.

Also, the are still looking for sponsors if you'd like to help out.

[1] Freezing temperatures optional since the closest hotel connects underground to the venue

“It’s been a long time since you shared a recipe at Get Rich Slowly,” I told Kris last week. “What about that pot roast recipe?” she asked. “You love that.” “Yes. Yes, I do,” I said. This guest post from my wife may be the best thing I’ve ever shared at Get Rich Slowly. It’s certainly the tastiest.

I’m usually a from-scratch kind of cook, and the sort of “semi-homemade” ingredients for this pot roast make me cringe a bit. But although I’ve tried other recipes and other methods, this one beats them all hands-down. I got the recipe from an old friend after enjoying it at her house a couple of times and wondering why my pot roast was never as good as Kim’s pot roast.

This recipe has one cardinal rule: You must start with good beef. Otherwise why bother? We use a roast from the beef we buy in bulk; it’s pasture-fed on a local farm and the resulting beef literally falls off the bone in succulent shreds of savory goodness. This roast cooks all day at a low temperature. It’s simple enough to start before you leave the house so that it’s ready when you come home for dinner.

I use a Dutch oven with a tight-fitting lid for this recipe. If you don’t have one, you can line a roasting pan with foil, then cover the meat with another piece of foil, and then crimp the two all the way around to make a sort of meat packet. The goal is to hold the moisture in while the beef becomes completely tender. The roast forms its own gravy as it cooks.

Kim’s Easy Pot Roast
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  • 3-4 pounds beef roast (top chuck, chuck shoulder, or rump round)
  • 1 package Lipton’s dry onion soup mix
  • 1 can condensed cream of mushroom soup
  • 2 Tablespoons Worcestershire sauce

Preheat the oven to 250 degrees Fahrenheit. Lightly oil the bottom of a Dutch oven with vegetable oil. (Or line a roasting pan with foil.) Add the roast to the pan. Combine other ingredients and spread over the roast. Put lid on pan. (Or add more foil and fold to seal roast.) Bake 11 hours.

Separately, I like to roast vegetables to serve as a side dish for this beef. In a shallow pan, I cook carrots, onions, and russet potatoes, drizzled with a bit of vegetable oil and seasons with salt and pepper. I cook them for 80-90 minutes at 400 degrees or so. If you aren’t lucky enough to have two ovens, make mashed potatoes on the stovetop instead.

I don’t recommend baking vegetables at the low oven temperature needed for this pot roast. Don’t try adding them to the roast; their high moisture content somehow messes up the texture of the beef.

Internet versions of this recipe exist using a crockpot on low for 8-9 hours. This might be worth a try someday, but I’m reluctant to meddle with perfection! I’ve also heard you can start with two cans of soup if you’d like more gravy at the end.

I like to serve this meal with a salad, homemade applesauce, and our favorite homemade bread.

Do you have a favorite low-effort recipe? What do you make that offers maximum flavor with minimum fuss?

J.D.’s note: This pot roast is fantastic. I cannot rave about it enough. In fact, I’m tempted to call Kris right now and ask if we can have this for dinner tomorrow. Yum. Photo by Merelymel13.

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7th Nov 2009 12:18 pm - 1 New Member!
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7th Nov 2009 05:48 pm - rendering problem
My Firefox updated to version 3.5.5 and now the LJ entry view looks strange, missing pictures plus the horrible Times New Roman font.
On my portal page everything looks fine [www.livejournal.com/portal/], but to have the usual style by the entries I must switch to IE view:

page rendered by ff engine
page rendered by ie engine

On my old PC I have a previous version of Firefox and everything is ok there.
What can I do to solve it without switching to ie view? Is it possible they will fix it in the next firefox update?

Thanks!
7th Nov 2009 05:55 pmUnknown composition
I posted about this in my journal... but I felt like posting here... Just to share... I don't know why. I'm going tonight, to a dinner organised by the publisher I work for as a childrens book illustrator...

When they called to ask if I'd participate or not to the dinner they organise, I first thought the publishing coordinator who's about my age, would be there so that even if I don't know / get to talk anyone else, there would be her to talk to. She's a nice woman who makes me feel ok and I have an easy communication with her. Then...  I learned she's not working there anymore.

So full of questions LOL ... I'll be going... but I'm EXTREMELY afraid of speding a very boring night with people who won't talk to me and so on.

I don't even exactly know if we're "invited", or if everyone will pay his her share. And I don't know how to manage to get to understand that without being silly.

I'm out of the door in half an hour wish me luck LOL
7th Nov 2009 01:42 am - Save-A-Lot Foods
I have never been a fan of Aldi's... Anyone have some insight on Save-A-Lot? I imagine it's about the same, crappy quality... 
7th Nov 2009 08:51 am - First Post
Hi!  I'm Kristen, am 30 yr. old, and highly suspect I may have Asperger's.  When I was 10, my grandmother took me to a psychiatrist and he said that I had an unspecified learning disability, was EXTREMELY shy, and was behind developmentally (I was more like a 7 yr. old than a 10 yr. old).  I didn't get to see my grandmother for more than a few times a year, so never went back, and my parents never cared to bother with it.  But I've spent the past couple of years searching for what's wrong with me and even considered bi-polar for the emotional swings, until I started reading about Asperger's.  And, boy, do I have a lot of the symptoms:

1. Face-blind: Thank god it's not just me.  I didn't even recognize my own sister once.
2. Poor memory: Memories of my childhood-and of yesterday-are very spotty.
3. Poor motor skills: I am so clumsy and uncoordinated.  You should see me try to sweep a floor.
4. Poor social skills: I spent my childhood made fun of, no matter that I went to over 40 schools by the time I was 15 (no, my parents were not in the military).
5. Eye contact: I find it very hard to look at people's faces and a lot of the times find myself looking in completely the opposite direction, 'cause I can't bear to look at them.
6. I'm terrible at taking care of myself as an adult and have just moved away from home, with a friend as a roommate.
There's other, smaller things, but these are, I think, the worst.

I want to go to a doctor for confirmation, but should I just pick a psychiatrist/psychologist from the phone book and ask about it or is there something specific I should do or look for?  The confirmation is mainly because people tend to brush me off when I say I have a bad memory or act as if I can just get over shyness with a snap of my fingers-I just have this gut feeling that it's something more.

And one question which bothers me: I hate being touched and especially hate touching other people.  Is this a symptom, too, or is it just me?  I realize that it could be because of a couple of, um, incidents in my childhood but I don't know...

Thank you.
7th Nov 2009 07:48 am - Linda-olog
I would love to find out more about you! Copy this, paste in a new note, replace my answers with yours and re-post this as your name followed by “ology.”

FOODOLOGY
What is your salad dressing of choice?
Rasberry Vinegarette

What is your favorite sit-down restaurant?
A particular Italian restaraunt in one of the local malls.

What food could you eat every day for two weeks and not get sick of?
My high fiber cereal

What are your pizza toppings of choice?
veggies-no spinach or broccoli

What do you like to put on your toast? 
butter and jam 

TECHNOLOGY
How many televisions are in your house?
one

What color is your cell phone?
Black and grey with fairy covers.

Do you have an iPod?
Sort of

BIOLOGY
Are you right-handed or left-handed?
Right.

Have you ever had anything removed from your body?
Yes and no

What is the last heavy item you lifted?
Probably my gear bag

Have you ever been knocked unconscious?
No, but I have been unconsious while walking down stairs once.

BULLOLOGY
If it were possible, would you want to know the day you were going to die?
Not really.

If you could change your name, what would you change it to?
No

Would you drink an entire bottle of hot sauce for $1000?
No

FAVORITOLOGY
Season?
Fall

Holiday? 
Halloween

Month?
October

CURRENTOLOGY
Missing someone?
Yes

Mood?
O.K.

What are you listening to?
Project Runway

Current worry?
January Court date

RANDOMOLOGY
First place you went this morning?
The living room

What's the last movie you saw?
One of the Ice Age movies

OTHER-OLOGY
Last time you had a run-in with the cops?
May 2.5 Years ago

How many pairs of flip flops do you own?
one

Last person you talked to? 
my son 

Last person you hugged?
my son

Do you always answer your phone?
sometimes

It's four in the morning and you get a text message, who is it? 
automated

If you could change your eye color what would it be?
Probably a vibrant green, but I love my eyes

Do you own a digital camera?
Yes

Have you ever had a pet fish?
Yes

Favorite Christmas song(s)
O Holy night

What's on your wish list for your birthday? 
Good yarn is always a great idea 

Can you do push ups?
only on my knees

Does the future make you more nervous or excited?
Both

Do you have any saved texts?
No

Have you ever been in a car accident? 
Yes

Do you have an accent?
Yes

Plans tonight?
No clue

Have you ever felt like you hit rock bottom? 
Yes

Name 3 things you bought yesterday?
Hamburger, apple pies, pizza

Have you ever been given roses?
Yes

Met someone who changed your life?
Yes, unfortunately he died

How will you bring in the New Year?
No Clue

What song represents you?
Crazy by Seal

Name two people who might complete this?
No clue

Would you go back in time if you were given the chance?
Yes

Have you ever dated someone longer than a year?
Yes
No sooner had we celebrated the exit of Barack Obama's Green Jobs Czar, Van Jones, because of his Communist connections, another off-the-wall Administration embarrassment surfaced. President Obama nominated for commissioner of the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) a woman who signed a radical manifesto endorsing polygamy.
(meme from [info]cryptictac)

one little compliment can make you feel amazing. so give me a compliment--anything in the entire world, even that my nose is exceptionally well-formed. then, put this in your journal. and once you get some warm-fuzzy comments, put that entry in a memory or tag and when you're feeling down, just go to that entry and it will remind you of how great you really are.

(i've been waffling on posting this. so i'm going to post it. and then try to forget that i posted it because i freak about this sort of stuff and am quite certain i don't deserve it even though i was serious that everyone should do this. everyone but me, i suppose. aaaaiiiieeee.)
5th Nov 2009 10:10 pmUnknown composition
I have a roach problem.  Personally, I think they are coming in from the drains.  We put down boric acid and traps/poison etc. and I can swear it's gotten worse.  I am at wits end.  I don't know what to do.
I'm not 100% sure if I should ask this question here, but I'm going to anyway and if it isn't something that is relevant, it can be ignored or deleted.

A year and a half ago, my aunt had gastric bypass surgery in order to lose a large amount of weight. Her medicare gap insurance fully paid for the procedure because it was deemed medically necessary since she had been trying to lose the weight for many years with minimal success due to other medical problems she has had for awhile.

A year after the surgery and nearly 200 lbs lighter, she was approved again to have both of her knees replaced so that she could walk without the aid of a cane or wheelchair for the first time in a very long time. Now that she's lost all the weight, her skin doesn't have enough elastic left in it to shrink up, so she's carrying a lot of extra weight in skin and it's pulling on her knees, back, hips and other areas still making it difficult for her to walk without the aid of a cane.

All of her doctors agree and have written letters saying that the skin removal surgery is a necessity and it would greatly improve her quality of life. The insurance company refuses to believe it is anything but vanity, since it's a cosmetic procedure, and has refused to pay for any part of it. My aunt wants to appeal the decision and I'm trying to help her write a letter of appeal.

My question is...how do we go about doing this properly? I've done research and so has she, but none of it seems to actually be pointing how to actually phrase the letter and how to make it the most compelling it can be. Even with so many doctors to back her up, she still wants her side of the appeal to be compelling.

Has anyone had experience with this type of thing? I would appreciate any guidance in the matter. She has 30 days left to appeal and really no idea where to begin. All the websites I've found that say they do a guide to writing a letter seem to be too generic. Is too much detail a bad thing? I really have no clue.

Any help would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you!
6th Nov 2009 12:27 pm - cat food.

our cat is adopted.

when we got him, he had tummy issues. probably due to eating garbage, which we still catch him doing.

we started him on a canadian brand of cat food called ORIJIN. it seemed like a good food. and it only costs $20 for a big bag.

then we took him to the vet, who told us to buy the vet food instead. medi cal hypoallergenic gastro-stuff. it is $44 for the same bag. i think the vet food is good. although, i do still notice that he has diarrhea sometimes.

is there a cat food we can buy that is similar (aka hypo and gastro and good for him!) but less expensive???

6th Nov 2009 08:08 pmUnknown composition
Five months ago I started the dental braces process. I am paying $5700 out of pocket for braces, since my insurance does not cover them. I paid $570 down (I think, or an amount close to that) and now pay $160 a month till its paid off. I started about 8 months ago. A co-worker mentioned since its a medical expense, I might get extra money back for taxes? Anyone know anything about this? I usually just do my taxes on TurboTax. This is costing me a fortune and if I could get extra money back on my refund, that would be amazing. I live in NY if that counts for anything.
6th Nov 2009 06:01 pmUnknown composition
Hey poor_skills!
I recently went to an AmeriCorps conference and took a workshop on living on a budget. I thought it was a great training and want to share what I learned with you. Check out the blog post I wrote about the workshop: http://servingandsurviving.blogspot.com/2009/11/surviving-on-serving-budget.html
6th Nov 2009 11:47 am - Oh happy day
I just finshed with th missionaries and we had a good vist. My bf is getting baptized I am so excited for him to know the truth and be happy. Have the joy we all have. Can we all welcome him?
6th Nov 2009 03:37 pm - (Mostly) Positive things [sewing, work]
For anyone in the UK, go here for free choccie! - http://www.milka.co.uk/milka2/page?PagecRef=625

I have an interview on Tuesday for a relatively low paid job for 40 hours a week that I am completely over-qualified for. Wish me luck!

I had a go with mum’s sewing machine and it didn’t go horribly wrong, go me! I even managed to sew more or less in a straight line, which is a good thing since I have the fabric to make two skirts already.
6th Nov 2009 07:05 amUnknown composition
I sat down with Connor as he ate breakfast. We talked about his school day, and making the honor roll, and whatnot.

He didn't like what his hair was doing, so he grabbed his OU cap.

I *squeed*. "Connor, you look so cute!"

He rolled his eyes at me. "Mom, I would have thought by now I'd have outgrown cute. I am 14, you know."

Outgrow cute?



Yeah, I don't think so.
6th Nov 2009 12:00 pm - The Curse of a Big-Win Mentality

This article is by GRS staff writer Adam Baker. Despite his best attempts, Baker struggles to budget while adapting to life in New Zealand.

Earlier this week J.D. tackled an important issue with his tenet Large Amounts Matter Too.

This concept goes by many names:

  • Focus on big wins.
  • Pick the low-hanging fruit
  • Attack high-leverage areas.

You get the point: It’s efficient to do things that have major impact with minimum effort. J.D. wrote:

Some people spend so much time sweating the small stuff that they don’t bother to do the same on the big stuff. They’re penny wise and pound foolish, negating their daily scrimping and saving by making poor financial decisions that burden them for years. Kris has a co-worker who once bought an SUV for $43,000. After a year, he decided to trade it in, but could only get $23,000 for it. Ouch!

His advice is spot on. An intense dedication to frugality can often do more harm than good. Getting caught up in the details can lead to mistakes or oversights in areas that cost us thousands.

But there’s another less-talked-about side of the coin.

While you certainly don’t want to miss the opportunity to capitalize on a major event, you also don’t want to develop the habit of relying on them either. These type of large gains for minimum effort can make us lazy.

After all, why should you clip coupons when you could spend that time planning your next pay negotiation? Why would you save money by making your own products at home, when you could be aggressively monitoring the classifieds for the next killer deal on a car?

Why casinos want you to win money
People that have been around the gambling industry will tell you that winning on your first trip to the casino is much worse than losing. Why? It changes your mindset. Most people will go from “I’m probably going to lose, so I’ll just plan to have a little fun” to “Wow, that was easy! Next time I go back I’ll be playing off my winnings”.

Next, you convince yourself that the losing streak you’ve bumped into is just a natural part of how things work. Hitting just one hand will make up all your loses. From there, it only gets worse.

Casinos make their profits when they can detach you from the value of your money. If you win the first time you visit, that process has already started. They know the average person will be back and will spend far more money than the guy or gal who lost it quickly on the first visit.

Encouraging lifestyle inflation
In our finances, the big wins have the potential to detach us in the same way. The value of these events is lost if you use them as an excuse to not attack your impulse spending or creeping lifestyle inflation. We are a culture that loves to celebrate shaving $200 off our monthly mortgage with a new $300/month car payment.

The problem is that all to often, we create a zero-sum game. We end up shuffling back ten steps in our daily lives and then trying to make it up in one big leap. That works well as long as we can keep leaping back up. Occasionally, though, we stumble when trying to leap. And when we do, we fall flat on our faces.

A constant reliance on these big wins is not sustainable. They aren’t meant to be Band-Aids to cover our daily financial boo-boos.

Reversing the curse
The cure for this curse is balance: Neither obsessive frugality nor an intense concentration on the big-ticket items will lead to long-term success. Balance will.

These big wins can be powerful influences in our financial lives. We can use them as sparks to turn around a desperate situation, or as fuel to build momentum on our existing progress.

For Courtney and me, focusing on correcting our day-to-day habits has actually fostered more big wins. Getting the basic principles of money management and frugality under control has given us more time, relieved stress, and provided more freedom to pursue larger activities.

What about you? Have you experienced the curse of the big-win mentality? Which has been the leading focus in your financial life: the small daily habits or the higher-leverage large amounts?

Photo by Haundreis.

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